Blessings of Marriage

giftMarriage is the seed that grows watered by consciousness. A woman and a man who connect from that conscious space naturally gravitate toward one another, they revolve around one another and reap the grace within their love as long as they both remain conscious and focused on their individual and common purpose. True marriage is a teacher of ultimate balance, as it gathers the dualities of all existence through two souls who interact and intertwine on those levels that are accessible to them according to their degree of awakening.

The rose of marriage is love, it keeps the union fragrant and leaning toward Light itself. In a true marriage the quintessential dynamic reposes upon giving, love seeks to give first, and in the giving, the lower self withers, thus the way is clear to behold the spiritual attributes that constitute our being… this is what makes the union between a man and woman purposeful, it is inviting of their respective full potential, their soul’s qualities and each mate serves as a mirror to the other, mutually reflecting their growth as well as the difficulties that can come with evolving.

In order to experience such love, we need to understand our deepest needs, our emotions, longings and most of all our selves. If we are not in touch with those yet, it’s wiser to be patient and nurture ourselves instead of rushing into marriage seeking to be nurtured by someone else with not much depth to bring to them. Let love take the time it needs to offer itself, there is no such thing as isolation in this Universe, eventually love always finds us, yet we need to inwardly prepare for it. A healthy marriage reflects peace, integrity, compassion, reliance, trust, tolerance, forgiveness, patience, selflessness and generosity. It is important to learn to cultivate those qualities that would lead to a harmonious atmosphere between husband and wife before bringing children in the world.

© 2008 Aïda Touré

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9 responses to “Blessings of Marriage

  1. MashaAllah what beautiful words of wisdom. Thank you for sharing sister.

  2. Assalam-alaikam,

    “…seeks to give first, and in the giving, the lower self withers, thus the way is clear to behold the spiritual attributes that constitute our being”

    I never thought of marriage in this way, but I agree with what you say. The more you strive to be a better spouse, the more you become a better person too.

  3. Walaikum Salam Umm Zahra & Umm Salihah, thanks & welcome.

  4. fatima bint ebrahim

    Assalamu Alaykum
    ”A marriage can and will flourish and bloom only with the Mercy and satisfaction of Allah the Almighty”
    I agree with Umm Salihah, I haven’t looked or thought of marriage in this way as well and the striving part is so true.
    Thank you for this…Shukran…

  5. Walaikum Salam Fatima, thank you.

  6. Pris

    Proper food the soul. Only love can nurture it and loving selflessly is a hard lesson but one with an abundance of blessings and loads and loads of love in return.

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